You've got two Eve's and two Day's---what's next?

Now that Christmas Eve and Christmas Day have passed we are now all focused on New Years Eve and New Years Day. I might suggest this is not a bad pattern to focus on a little bit at a time every now and then, but we must also focus on the big picture in our lives too.
The problem with day to day focus living is that if this consumes us our lives basically involve no planning, just living. This will deprive us of not just needed personal development in our lives, but it will eventually rob us of dreams, hopes and aspirations. There are moments in all our lives that do require us to live and survive but that type of lifestyle will run her course and we will find ourselves empty handed and farther down the road of depression, self respect, and vision.
When you find the need to be singular in focus a few suggestions might be to make sure that you have some friends coming by to visit that are living the dream, and or still pushing toward their sense of self and accomplishment. Another suggestion would be to not stay locked away, but make sure you get out of the house, visit some folks you really like and that are encouragers and see that the world is still moving. Often times when trouble hits our door or difficult times fill our lives we just do the day type living thing and we forget about everything and everyone else. This of course is not good.
Focus living begins with a purpose, some trusted friends for advice and support and a determination to not die without a fight. Certainly to fail is not a failure, to find ourselves against the wall is not the end nor is struggling and having to have assistance the end of the world. These are all facts of life that most of us have experienced, and I am suggesting that we’ve experienced all of these moments too. There is no shame in having help, but there is shame in relying totally on help without our involvement to make the situation better.
Motivation is the drive, determination, encouragement, inspiration or courage to take a step, make a change, or go after something that is before you. In this type of motivational living there will be many hard days no doubt. There will be moments of loneliness and defeat, but the key is the courage to not accept such and become that single focused person, but to keep dreaming, fighting, pushing, clawing, or whatever it takes to keep moving. Sometimes in accepting motivation we are looking for immediate results that put us ahead, and that is not always the end result. Personally, I can feel ahead knowing that I left no stone unturned, that I gave something my all and even though the results I would have wished for or sought after didn’t come my way, I have self respect knowing that I didn’t just stand around and do nothing.
So, while you’ve just experienced an eve and a day with Christmas and now you are ready for another eve and day with New Years, what direction will you head toward after these too pass? For myself I have determined that “life is worth the living because He lives”. I am always someone who enjoys a song and the message is just perfect not only for me but I would think for many that we all know that have questions about life and how to live it.
When you need or want a reason to live---Jesus is a great answer! When you think your hope is gone and the struggles are too great to bear---Jesus is available! When you think that all your friends have gone, and you may be right---just remember that Jesus is a friend that sticks by closer then a brother!
Merry Christmas 2008 and Happy New Year 2009, and if you need more then this to get your life going again, just remember there is more to the Star of Bethlehem then just a light to follow to one destination. The Star is a light for choice after choice and decision after decision.

Until then

My First Christmas in Heaven - Grandfather, C. Hobert Mills

Of all the traditions an individual can be a part of, the publishing of this column, with this poem, is one event that is my most cherished tradition during the Christmas Season. Given to my by a friend at the death of my grandfather, C. Hobert Mills, today I share the thoughts again as a ministry to all who have lost loved ones.
The memories of loved ones, family and friends, floods my mind while my heart is filled with comfort each time I reflect and read. May you too be blessed.

My First Christmas in Heaven

I see the countless Christmas Trees around the world below
With tiny lights, like Heaven’s stars, reflecting on the snow.

The sight is so spectacular, please wipe away the tear
For I am spending Christmas with Jesus Christ this year.

I hear the many Christmas songs that people hold so dear
But the sounds of music can’t compare with the Christmas choir up here.

I have no words to tell you, the joy their voices bring,
For it is beyond description to hear the angels sing.

I know how much you miss me, I see the pain inside your heart
But I am not so far away, we really aren’t apart.

So be happy for me, dear ones, you know I hold you dear
And be glad I’m spending Christmas with Jesus Christ this year.

I sent you each a special gift, from my heavenly home above.
I sent you each a memory of my undying love.

After all, love is a gift more precious than pure gold.
It was always most important in the stories Jesus told.

Please love and keep each other, as my Father said to do.
For I can’t count the blessing or love He has for each of you.

So have a Merry Christmas and wipe away that tear.
Remember, I am spending Christmas with Jesus Christ this year.

Until then

The STAR.....your journey....it's in the name....JESUS

The Season of Advent is in full swing and in less then two weeks this Nation will celebrate the finale of the Christmas Season with Christmas Eva and Christmas Day personal and family gatherings. This year I participated in the 37th Annual Lighting of the Star. It is the Pineville (Bell County) Community Celebration of the big shining STAR that is atop Pine Mountain. The STAR is a something that drivers and passengers have been looking up at as they drive and ride the Cumberland Gap Parkway through the Gem City of the Cumberland’s-Pineville during this season of the year.
The STAR is a symbol that represents the STAR of BETHLEHEM, and it provides as it shines the same wisdom and guidance that the Wise Men were following during their journey to find the place of the birth of the Savior of the World-Jesus. Today, wise individuals should be discovering themselves looking for the answer, and it is still found in the only name given among men whereby we must be saved, the name of Jesus (Acts 4:12).
I would be really nice to say that peace can be found at the manager bed, or that confidence can be discovered at the cross, but the manager bed, the cross and the tomb are all just points or details in the story of Jesus. The answer, the peace and the confidence for difficult times is found in a single name, not in a location or a thought. Hymn books are filled with songs about the name Jesus, but many individuals place their focus on certain situations, or moments in the life of Jesus rather then the power of the name. This Season is a perfect time to begin by looking at the STAR, seeing the call of the Father on the life of His son Jesus, and the obedience of Jesus to His Father’s call which included Jesus’ willingness to lay down His life on a cruel wooden cross, experiencing humiliation, pain and rejection so He could continue His journey through the grave and finally back home to His Father in Heaven.
As this Christmas Season has been arriving the journey many individuals have experienced has been a difficult one. We often think of the Wise Men as I have in this column, but they were being served as they traveled and their travels were from the highest of orders and instructions with assistance. Maybe we should think about the shepherds’ who were working that 3rd shift in the night, outside, where the weather conditions hand no effect, work required their attentiveness. Tough times make tough people, but it’s not a stubborn toughness I am talking about, where we don’t listen or care because of the hard time one has experienced in life. Rather, a toughness about where we have our eyes focused and what we our holding on to that pushes us forward and creates a drive filled with faith no matter the outcome.
If you receive no gifts this Christmas is it still Christmas? By the way, I’m not talking about you and your family or friends agreeing not to buy something for each other, but a real no gifts. If you have no ability to have a fancy meal this Christmas is it still Christmas? If you are seeking employment yet finding yourself at the mercy of the folks you know, is it still Christmas? It is easy to sings songs about joy, hope and peace in good times, but the real test is when you are experiencing your worse. What are the thoughts of your heart and the meditation of your mind? We all want to buy gifts, but will you still say it’s Christmas if you have no money to buy a single gift for anyone?
The STAR of Bethlehem is all about us and it is about the gift that was created just for me and for you. Accepting that gift is up to us individually too. The real peace, hope, joy, confidence, and faith one needs to live in all times can only be found in Jesus Christ. He is more then the reason for the Season, He is not just the Season either, but He is the only answer for the being alone, doing without, or cherishing the memories once shared and enjoyed. My prayer is that no matter the status you find yourself this Christmas you will see the STAR and know there is more to this then meets the eye.

Until then

Thanks - South Farriston Missionary Baptist Church; Crossroads Fellowship;

The Season of Thanksgiving is a perfect time for us to focus on matters that deserve an acknowledgement of thanks and I cannot allow this season to pass without sharing the highlight of my Season of Thanks as I mention what I witnessed at the South Fariston Missionary Baptist Church in London, Kentucky. The church, which recently changed her name to Crossroads Fellowship Church, is located off Highway 25 between Corbin and London. This Fariston Community has a rich history of good neighbors and friends, and Crossroads Fellowship began as a church with land purchased on October 3, 1959, at the total cost of ($1.00) one dollar. This original land gift was made possible by the support of the Lily Baptist Church, and conveyed by Trustees, Roy Peters, Charlie Johnson, Robert Root and Casper Hopkins.
The Bible instructs Christians to lay a foundation that others can build upon and the Lily Baptist Church has long been a place of involvement and has a rich history herself. This act of generosity is one such testimony of their desire to expand the Gospel of Jesus Christ. That faith and foundation laid has continued with additional layers and on the first Sunday in November of this year I witnessed a most unique foundation of God as the South Fariston Missionary Baptist Church, operating under a new vision and name installed Doug Sage as the New Pastor at the Crossroads Fellowship Church.
Crossroads Fellowship is a great name for a church that seeks to provide answers and directions for travelers along life’s highway. The search for significance and mean in life is not an easy find for many, but Crossroads Fellowship and her members stand providing individual highway signs pointing and guiding people to Jesus Christ who are willing to receive a helpful hand of friendship and assistance. The intersections of life, choices and decisions are sometimes crowded by the sounding of horns, the push of people, and the pressure to move or doing something. With that type of fast paced life it is easy to miss miracles that happen right before us, but I am thankful I didn’t miss witnessing this one.
The transition of leadership in most churches is done very quietly. We let most pastors come and go with very little fanfare, thanks or honor. Certainly hardly ever heard is a service where the outgoing and the incoming pastors are honored in the same service, but that’s exactly what I witnessed on that Sunday morning at Crossroads Fellowship. This service wasn’t planned to just get along and be nice to each other either, but it was a Holy Spirit filled experience where we witnessing the “laying on of hands”, heard prayers of praise, thanks and vision for these two men of God, and this filled my life with amazement at the wonder of God’s goodness as witnessed through the lives of two pastor and a congregation who loves the both. Pastor Joshua Smith, who served for over 2 years, has stepped down to allow God’s Will to be completed in the life of Doug Sage who has served as Minister to Students. Pastor Josh Smith provided the confirmation of God’s Will in Doug’s life after honest conversations between the two of them and because of both of their desires to serve God the best with their talents and skills. If you’ve attended church just a little or for most of your life, you will not have any problem knowing this is not something that happens everyday, as many Christian leaders often serve their own egos, perceived reputations and would never dare to take this kind of step, unheard of, step down, lift someone else up, and here’s a twist, and remain at the church to help the new pastor too?!
Only God puts a rainbow in the sky and only God brings hearts together, united, and all so that Jesus Christ can be exalted in His church-unheard of, in most circles, but witnessed in this one.
Observing the change in the Lead Servants role between these two pastors and to know that this was fully supported by the congregations causes me to know one thing for certain. I cannot wait to watch and see what God does next in this congregation. The congregations genuine love toward each other and their desire to serve God by reaching out beyond their church buildings and walls is a great indication that another foundation has been laid for others to build upon, and to see cooperating church leaders is a real miracle that you don’t often get to witness first hand, so I am thankful I have witnessed again, the hand-i-work of God in my lifetime.

Until then

Thanks Continues: Jeremy & Sarah Skiles; Chris Merrifield; Evan Miller; Melissa Steapleton; Stephen Cawood; Phil & Donna Mitchell;

Tis the Season of Thanksgiving, and I know of no more an appropriate action that any of us could take greater then expressing thanks. Thanks are deserving of our expression for many different reasons and there are many ways in which we can accomplish the task.
How about silent thanks which we can express in a way that the recipient doesn’t know who the surprise has come from? When was the last time you received something but you didn’t know from whom? It will make you walk around in such as way as to be nice to everyone, wanting to express your thanks to all, not knowing whom to personally acknowledge for your gift. That type of living is really not an inappropriate way to live at all, actually, it would make us much more grateful and just imagine how different the world would be if we lived that way…exciting huh? How about a real word of thanks where you write a personal note to someone and it wasn’t produced by some committee or hallmark greeting card writer. A note I personally cherish is one written to me by Stephen Cawood. It was on a simple index type card with his name on it that expressed his thoughts and it meant so much then, and still does today. I am certain he has no idea of the impact of his note a couple years ago and how that encourages me. How about picking up a food bill for someone that is eating at a restaurant or stepping up to the fast food counter and saying, I’ve got this. There might be a little bit of, “no” at first, but just be firm, this is what you are doing and I’m sure the worker will take your card or cash and you can say thanks that way, and I know that will make a difference.
Over the years I have always attempted to be someone that said thanks, but there are some folks that I wish I had said thanks to more often then I have. If you are someone that doesn’t take a “thanks” well, then please don’t stop us for doing such because if you will not allow an individual to say thanks then you become a thief and rob them of something that is rightful to do and certainly appropriate. When was the last time you said thanks to a teacher that has no idea they made a difference in your education. I cannot help but remember Mrs. Dorothy Engle, my first grade teacher, and Mrs. Carter, my second grade teacher at Arjay Elementary School. What a difference they made. I recall their gentleness, soft words and encouragement in accomplishing task age appropriate that are sometimes difficult to master when you are a little one. Remember early days are a good thing and honoring new friends in our new days is just as good. I’ve got new friends that have been a blessing that I need to say thanks to. I realize that for some individuals they don’t have any new friends, basically they have the same friends they have always had. There are a lot of ways to make new friends. If works takes you away from home, there is a chance plus you can deal with a little “home sickness” better if you don’t stay cooped up and in your own little world. Travels on vacations and weekend experiences create a great chance to meet new folks, after all, saying hello might just lead you to a better understanding of how small the world really is, and you may just have friends in common that you would never have discovered if you didn’t say hello, or ask, “how are you”.
Jeremy Skiles and his wife Sarah are two friends that have earned my respect this past year. They will say I am not wrapped all that tight, so please, no one agree with them, they need no encouragement along these lines, ha, ha. Melissa Steapleton is just as dandy and we always have a great time laughing and hanging out, but don’t hold it against her, she from Indiana. Evan Miller is another new comer that has earned a word of thanks as he is a great listener and the perfect birthday planner. Evan is from that other end of Kentucky in Murray, so I could just write that he’s from Missouri but I know he will smile with me as I say thanks in this endeavor. Chris Merrifield from Knoxville, Tennessee has become a great friend and someone that I must say thanks to for being genuine and real in a world that is so often filled with the disingenuous. My final salute to new friends must be Phil and Donna Mitchell. Phil loves bluegrass music so you know he’s in my circle of friends and Donna makes the best homemade spaghetti, so she “cook of the year”.
Not sure who you need to say thanks to, or by what method you will choose to honor those that you love and appreciate, but there is no better time then now, as we celebrate the Season of Thanks.
Until then

Thanks: Bill Cox; Nathan Zettler; Mike Ernst; Ken Fritz; Dr. Samuel B Patterson;

When you love the month of November as I do, I just can’t wait to write about my Thanksgivings and as has become one of my traditions, a chance to write my thanks about people who have influenced my life and folks that I am thankful to God for their lives, witness and friendship. Since I began this type of public thanksgiving for friends I have been amazed by those that are taken back when they see their name in print and me publically acknowledging their influence and my thanks and appreciation for their impact in my personal life. I believe it is very important that we practice such a moment in our lives as people need to hear a witness if you will, or a testimony about what we have observed in their lives and the difference they have made in ours because they gave, shared, or extended friendship.
Friendship is no easy thing. Early times in my life I would have thought that having friends is easy, and while the Bible says to have friends, one must show themselves to be friendly, that alone doesn’t give us a promise that we will have friends, but it does give us a beginning point to establish friends. I have been blessed to have had the influence of mentors in my life that really made a difference.
Dr. Samuel Benjamin Patterson. He was the Bishop of the AME Zion Church and the District that covers Eastern Tennessee. “Dean” was a person that always smiled, and he didn’t believe in taking up the tithes and offerings in church using plates. He taught that plates just don’t hold much, and to prove his point he would say go to the buffet line and you will come to a point where you just can’t put anymore on, even if you want to. He liked taking up tithes and offerings using baskets, and he believe in big baskets, “harder to fill” I can still hear him say, when thinking about a congregation, but “no problem” for God, he taught me. He preached several times at the Horse Creek Road Baptist Church in Corbin, and while he was from Morristown, Tennessee, he had a real love for the folks in the land of blue, and his spirit was one you just could not get enough of. He died at the age of 42 and is missed by this student quite often as I travel down life highway.
Bill Cox, the leader of a ministry called Concoxions, and located in South Carolina is the first person to teach me that Jesus Christ wanted a personal relationship with me. I was just a child at 8 years of age when he would pick me up in a station wagon and take me to Vacation Bible School at Crockett, Kentucky, when the coal camp was still booming back in the 1970’s. This effort grew from the heart of Dr. Alastar Walker, who served as Pastor of the First Baptist Church Middlesboro in the 1960’s, before he became pastor of the First Baptist Church of Spartanburg, South Carolina, and served there over 30 years. I am so thankful to Bill because when the entire world around me falls and crumbles I am reminded that I have something that no man can take away, my personal relationship with Jesus Christ, and Bill introduced me to that guy named Jesus!
In this modern age of living, I have three friends that can only be mentioned as a group. I can speak of them individually and their accomplishments, but when it comes to friendship and what they and their families have extended to me, they all three stand tall and on the same level in my world. Nathan Zettler, a police officer in Hamilton Ohio, Michael Ernst, a corporate representative in Louisville, KY, and Ken Fritz, an executive with Northern Kentucky University are true friends, tried, tested and passed! Hard to think about how my life would be without tried and tested friends who have your front, back and every side as a part of their friendship.
November is a great month to sit down, do some reflection, think about your life, where you have been, and where you are headed, and who is going with you on that journey. The course of life itself lends to moments that are marked historically in your life that cannot be repeated or traveled again. Moments that you will never be able to live again, but moments cherish in your memory bank forever. To be thankful for the friendship once shared and to look for the new ones that are developing around you daily are all a part of this thing called life.

Until then

Presidential Election 2008 - In the future writing!

The Election Day has passed; we have a new President of the United States of American and their name is_________? As I write this column in advance, currently I am reading the papers, watching the television, listening to talk radio and counting the days down to Tuesday, and that would be this past Tuesday (Nov 4th) actually. Speculation of who will be elected and reports of all the different poles about who is leading here and about how this lead has changed there are everywhere, and it could just be that even though the Election Day has passed the election could be in question, if we have lawsuits filed protesting or questioning the results.
Writing into the future is fun, and it could be that while I am thinking this column will be published the week of the Presidential Election, it could very well be that the world has ended and no one will ever read these, my famous last words? I am prepared for the end of the world spiritually speaking. My faith in Jesus Christ has me ready for His return, whenever He has set for that occurrence to begin. I feel like writing that I am not ready for the world to end if that happens some other way then my preparations have prepared me, spiritually. Certainly for some who are dug into their political parties I guess this election will either brings “WE DID IT” or “2012”. As a Christian, I have not placed my faith, hope or eternal thoughts in a political party. While I have voted already and I am pleased with my selection, my world will not end if my choice doesn’t win this election.
Talking about writing into the future, as I am writing this column now, there are already talks about the election in 2012. I’ve heard talks about Hillary, talks about the lady from Alaska, talks about party platforms and the mistakes that have been made by these two major parties in America during this past election. I found some humor actually in listening to politicians I have observed all my life talk about working across party lines. When I watch republican advertisements with democrats saying that this candidate believed in all of Kentucky, I smiled. It was interesting to watch politicians who have always been down the line democrat and republican all of a sudden talking about working with everyone and for everyone, I had to smile and I believe you should have been smiling too.
What needs to happen is that the next time one of our elected officials say well the democrats stopped this, or the republicans brought this to a halt in committee, we citizens should rise up and find a way to remove them from office, crying shame for playing politics with our lives through legislation, funding and representation. I doubt this will happen but it should. Americans should cry out for honest representation that says who individually and stops mentioning a group that is always easy to blame or pin the problem on. Finding solutions does require working together. No one wants credit for the bail out, the economic conditions or any association with these problems, but it falls where it falls, on Congress, so no excuses, just responsibility and accountability.
Our Nation was founded on Christian Principals and there are always folks who will say no, this is not true, but it is, we are a nation founded on God, the Holy Bible and our nation has always been best served when those principals were followed by our elected leadership. Instead, greed, corruption, and self interest are the standards of the day. Real leadership and vision are two characteristics that are founded on service. The days seem to have passed when people do because they want to serve, but if we look closely those individuals are still out there, still attempting to make a difference by giving of themselves. While I don’t know who is elected as I write this today, when I read this column in the paper I will know, but I will also know one other thing too. The best of America has nothing to do with misplaced faith in parties, positions or platforms. The best of America has to do with loving our neighbor as ourselves and loving the Lord thy God with all your heart. When that happens in America, our economic crisis will still not be solved, but there will be a peace that passes all understanding that will carry you through any time, any situation, or any conditions we might face.

Until then

Faith Temple; U.N.I.T.E. "Focus on the Family"

Anyone who has read this writers column for any length of due time you are aware that I have a great love for Bell County and I always describe Bell County as a County of two Cities, Pineville and Middlesboro. I don’t believe in the self promotion of one city over the other and I am bothered by the lack of vision and respect I hear, anytime I an elected city official of any position talks about their city without mentioning the value and relationship to Bell County. We are all in this together, and it may very well be that Bell County will never achieve greater advancement for her citizens until we have covenant relationships where we commit to promote each other, believing that if one advances that this will assist the other. The same principal works in church growth. If one church grows locally, that is positive news, because that means opportunity exist for the others, if willing to go after it and become a part of the solution.
A couple months ago I wrote about a unique opportunity that the Bell County Board of Education had to partner with U.N.I.T.E. and Focus on he Family. The “opportunity” of this connection was made possible because of the leadership of Shawn Baker, Senior Pastor of the Ministries of Faith Temple Church. The “opportunity” was unique because it would have provided the citizens of Bell County a chance to tap into the resources provided by the National Ministry of Focus on the Family and unique because Bell County would have been the leader of efforts to establish this new faith program throughout the 5th Congressional District. Yes, I believe the old Ward Chapel School Property would have been perfect for such an endeavor and the motives of the congregation at Faith Temple were also proper and had the county as a whole in mind under the vision of this effort. I am not afraid to applaud the efforts of any individual or organization that attempts to make a difference with a vision for all of us. No fear if they be a republican or a democrat, live in one of the cities or in the county. I applaud efforts and vision from all denominations as well. Sure, I am a Baptist, but I believe the work of Darrell Lowe and Lighthouse Mission has been a great asset to Bell County, and I know of others that agree. I am thankful for Methodist and Presbyterian churches that have opened their doors for meetings of small groups and support groups for issues related to the battle against drugs that affect all of us.
Personally I wanted to see Bell County be there leader in this new faith effort within U.N.I.T.E. Why? Because before U.N.I.T.E. there were two efforts that provided for the foundation of that program and they began here in Bell County. The Bell County Drug Coalition and that organizational structure and the vision of the comprehensive approach to education, prevention, intervention, and treatment was the model for the Comprehensive Counter-Drug Initiative, which with a name change become Unlawful Narcotics Investigation Treatment and Education, (Operation UNITE). The vision of David Jorjani, as County Attorney in Knox County, and his partnership with the leadership of the Bell County Drug Coalition secured the funding with a matching grant from the U.S. Department of Justice, and the support of the local governments who contributed, which included the counties of Bell, Knox and Whitley Counties. This effort became the Law Enforcement division of Operation U.N.I.T.E.
Bell County should be proud of the leadership we provided for this war against drugs. Bell County, through her citizens and their willingness to step up and take the lead made this difference that has not only touched us here at home, and not just the 5th Congressional District, but these efforts serve other congressional districts that have taken the example demonstrated here. Leadership and vision are always nice words to use, but the key to understanding leadership and vision is that those efforts are not ones that benefit those individual leaders personally. Leadership and vision are powerful words when the actions by our volunteers’ community leadership and those elected to official positions work together to see something greater then ourselves take hold.
Today, Focus on the Family and U.N.I.T.E. have taken what Pastor Shawn Baker fought for us to have here in Bell County to 10 pilot communities which include: Corbin; Manchester; Harlan; McKee; Hindman; Inez; and areas in Floyd, Menifee; Martin and Pike Counties. His vision and passion to address our needs should be applauded and while others will be the first to benefit from his efforts we should remind ourselves that here in Bell County we have been blessed by many different leaders, I am just praying for the day when everyone will have the proper motives for the positions they hold or have been elected to. Our government should serve the people and we the people should serve the government, rendering unto God that which is due Him, and to the government what which is due her.


Until then

Order of Eastern Star - Pineville Chapter #89 - 100 Years Old

Birthdays are a time of reflection that brings out the celebration, cake and ice cream in all of us. As a child every birthday is celebrated, and into ones late teen years and early adult years we celebrate such milestones until we move to the decade celebration mode. Celebrations of organizational birthdays are also important to note, honor and remember and this past week, the Order of Eastern Star, Pineville Chapter #89 celebrated 100 years as an organization here in Pineville, Bell County, Kentucky.
The Order of Eastern Star has a very active District Organization here in the Mountains of Southeastern Kentucky. Present at the celebration were officers and members of the various Chapters here in the Mountains. Barbourville, Williamsburg, Corbin, Harlan and even members from visiting Chapters from Tennessee and Virginia attended. The O.E.S. is a real family organization which explains the participation of so many different Chapters helping to honor one of their own in her milestone of 100 years, founded in 1908.
The Order of Eastern Star is an organization that is founded on Christians Principals and uses the Star of Bethlehem as their emblem of explanation and uses the Biblical accounts of the lives of Adah, Ruth, Esther, Martha and Electa as teaching points to enhance our lives as followers of Jesus and members of the O.E.S. The ceremonies and rituals developed and used are not only beautiful but valuable in their instruction as to living our lives as Christians. The Star Points teach from the life of Adah that we should be faithful to all our moral obligations, Ruth instructs us about honor, justice and faithfulness to our duties and our place in life. The life of Queen Esther represents loyalty to oneself and who we are, and also instructs loyalty to our friends, country and to our God. Electa teaches hospitality and help to the poor and distressed, with the greatest lesson being the Biblically commandment “Thou shall love they neighbor as thyself.” Martha teaches members of the Order of Eastern Star about trustful faith and Hope of Immortality life found through Jesus Christ.
Such teaching is the foundations upon which our nation was founded and personally I believe it is this type of teaching that needs to be continually taught and instructed into the lives of young people and individuals everywhere. Service to others is almost a lost art among many today. Many individuals are about themselves and do very little to give to others, and even more especially if it were to cost them personally in giving to others. The O.E.S. is all about giving still, and giving at our personal cost to make a difference in the lives of others motivated by our faith in Jesus Christ.
The Celebration of 100 years of Pineville Chapter #89 is a Historical Milestone that deserves our acknowledgment. Personally I attended the 75th Birthday Celebration back in 1983. At that time, I never even consider the idea of attending the 100th Birthday; actually it never entered my thought patterned. However, this past Sunday it did enter my mind as I participated in that moment, honoring those that have given over the years to continue the organization, and those still who maintain their membership in the Order of Eastern Star, and active commitment through her purposes and goals to touch and make a difference in the lives of those who make up our community. Thinking historically about this particular 100th Celebration I am thinking now about the 125th Celebration that will come, if the Lord tarries. Thinking along those lines, considering the scientific life expectancy of male individuals I have as a scientific life line of expectation to advance my days until March 23, 2036. At that time I will be 72.5 years of age. If all continues, Pineville Chapter #89, will celebrate her 125th Birthday in the year 2033, and that’s within my scientific life range, so I should be there too.
However, if one of life’s curves brings my life to a shorter end, I am excited today to say I witnessed two milestones in this Chapter’s life and my participation as an observe first, then member, and officer has been touched and changed by the teaching of the Star Points and the truths only discovered in the Holy Bible and life of Jesus.

Until then

26 years.......personal reflection

One subject matter that I have written about in theme more then any other in this column is the subject of “Time”. Time is valuable and her passing is so amazing when you consider all the variables one experiences as the seconds, minutes, hours, days, weeks, months and years arrive and pass. This month is one of reflection as I look back 26 years ago and consider individuals like: Ike Wilson; Dr. Charles F. Jones; Bill Cox; Richard Stokes; Institutions like: North Greenville College; First Baptist Church-Pineville; Centrifuge; Issues like: Vision; Purpose; Calling; Peace;
In today’s timing we like the before and after type settings, photos, and explanations. Not exactly sure why but for some reason or another we normally think of things in terms of beginning and end, or at least that is the way we reflect during funeral times, leaving out the details and valuables that filled our lives and time. The individuals, institutions and issues that filled the middle time frame of our lives are generally just highlighted in a mention only status and the focus of life is again placed on those beginning days and how things ended. I would call that a disservice and not a true representation of the real picture of time and or a good reflection if you leave out all the middle stuff. Reflecting 26 years into the past reminds me of all times. Ecclesiastes chapter three reflects on all times which includes not just the purposed, planted, built up, laughing and dancing, but also the struggle, with the reflection of dying, weeping, morning, war and hate. As individuals we would much rather desire the experience winning verses losing. We as individuals would rather to laugh then cry, unless the crying is because we are laughing so hard. Individually it is much easier to place blame then to assume responsibility or the even greater call to just forgive and move on. Verse eleven in chapter three of Ecclesiastes is a sober reminder of the real key to dealing with time and the experiences in the middle and scriptures reads, “He has made everything beautiful in His time”. The sobering thought is He does it, in His time, not in our time. Confessing the lack of ability to change anything is sobering and humbling. Our commitment must be to place ourselves in the position to be used by God as He directs.
A few Sunday’s ago I heard for the first time a song and chorus written by Israel Houghton. It was entitled “new season” and what a powerful message about new seasons. For me I made that application that this “new season” was perfect for the middle of life too. Shortly after the choir performed that song they sang “if you can use anything Lord”. Honestly at that point it was already way past decision time for this person who was in reflection mode. I found a sweet savor of the Lord present in my inner spirit when I confessed that if there was anything about me that He could use, He can use.
26 years ago I began a journey with the encouragement of the First Baptist Church, Pineville, KY., when they formally recognized talents they believed God had given to me. Confessing yourself to be someone that God can use is easy when you are young. Seeing yourself as an instrument that God can use is easy when you’ve not had many bumps or bruises from life’s journey. There are no problems seeing your life as an instrument of God’s Good News when you are strong and vibrant in energy and zeal for the Kingdom. No, there are no problems being a vessel for good use as long as you have not suffered any direct hits from the devils fiery darts, we so wrongly like to believe and teach to others.
The real truth holds that God is more then able to use those hard and roughest of days from our life’s journey, if we let Him. God is able to make full use of the middle time of our life and create a great end to our witness, if we can but simply say one thing through it all. “If there is anything you can use Lord, you can use me”.

Until then

Cecil Wilson, Publisher The Barbouville Advocate Remember

Not sure what you think of when you reflect back to early memories of your days in youth, but I have a good variety of early
memories and impressions that have I more clearly understand today better then ever before. A part of the clarification on my part
involves a more adult understanding of life, things and people. Part of that clear understanding also has to do with having a sense of
respect for this land we call home, traditions we share and experiences we’ve participated in and witnessed from the sidelines.
I remember impressions from church services, both speakers and the music that moved me. People that were both leaders
and servants, and I remember some that I just didn’t fully understand until years later, when I had a chance to be in their shoes.
It is a dangerous thing for a columnist of several papers to write about a publisher of just one, but the passing of Cecil Wilson
cannot go without a published word of his influence, vision, and leadership for not just his local community but a region that
has been touched because of his service to his profession, a desire to be involved, and strength to write it as he thought it and saw
it. Which if you want to be liked in today’s world it’s simply. Just don’t share an opinion, state a belief, or give your “two cents”, and
more then likely everyone will love you. Cecil Wilson made a difference because he got involved, shared what he had to give and
believed that each of us should do the same and the best would happen. Not a bad vision at all and certainly an attitude that
needs to be continued if a collective difference is to ever be experienced by all of us in our communities.
The first paper I can ever remember reading or looking at was the Barbourville Advocate. The cause and effect happened
because my parents read the paper and it was a connection with family, home and people. Again, not a bad vision at all and my
respect is strong for his leadership in keeping the Advocate about family, home and people. I guess it’s the reason why I am
writing this column. It’s all about connecting with people, sharing the stories of people, talking about our home, where we live,
why we love it so, and about our families and the sense of pride we all share in “our people”.
Our Daily Papers and Weekly Published Newspapers all attempt to connect in these ways, but folks who have been
long time readers and observes understand it is a different type of paper, and I guess that’s the reason it’s fans are as they are.
Cecil Wilson believed by serving as the publisher was just one of the ways he contributed to Knox County. If one searched the
Achieves of the Barbourville Advocate a discovery would be made of the picture of all our families, homes and people, no matter
where we call home. From Williamsburg and stories about situations in Whitley County to the Flood in Pineville-April 1977, The
Advocate served as a means of understand because of it’s published words, and Cecil Wilson made that happen because
of his leadership and desire to be involve as a part of the process that made things better. All of us in the newspaper business,
as columnist, publishers, editors, and reporters can only pray that when we have passed, someone else will be able to write
words about us that can show we made a difference by what we have done.

Until then

Union College Football - "I know what I'm learning"

Often in this column, the regular reader, has been asked how long they are committed toward pursue of their goal, or how dedicated are you to following your dream? If achieving success is something that happens because of one decision then that is great to know. Reason being, it that is true, would be we are all just one decision away from success. However, I don’t want to bust your bubble or take away your exciting for living, but that type of life living and thinking is not true, even if you want to believe it is. We would all be at the top with one decision to success, but success occurs because of hard work, dedication to purpose and focus. Success also occurs because of the ability we have to sell our dream that others buy into it and believe. One of the great joys in my life has to do with my time as a Mission Service Core Volunteer at Union College in Barbourville. Serving as the Sports Chaplain to student athletes, coaches, and the various teams has so enriched my life with friends, experiences and opportunities for me to share what God gave me in talents.
Today, my perspective in witnessing the Union College Football Team and that success reminds me of Biblical truths that can be witnessed in life if one is willing to pursue the goal, and be dedicated to the dream. Most folks, in times of success, want to reflect on that particular moment and take the praise as it is, for oneself not remembering the real past or those that came before them. Union Baseball Coach Bart Osborne is one exception to that rule of normal action. When the Baseball Team broke the ceiling of achievement at Union, Coach Osborne reflected on those that had filled the dugouts before them, and he honored all those that stepped up to the plate long before and they too had a goal and a dream. That type of living is a witness to Biblical truths because the Bible says that we are to show respect and honor to whom it is due. Something that many Christians conveniently forget to live out in their lives, but my applause to those that have not.
I remember the announcement when the Board of Directors voted to reinstate football on campus, and I recall even the comments of some that considered it to a most unwise decision, a waste of money and not within the best interest of the campus or the community. Today, as then, I know we can find those comments still, but to those who suited up, put on a helmet and hit the heat in three-a-days practice sessions, you did not hear it then, and will not hear it now. Only positive comments fill the lives of those that played the game before this years presents successes, because the disciple to play a sport serves one well in life. The get up and go, and pick yourself back up attitude is one that can be most beneficial in everyday living, raising a family and living life. After all, the Apostle Paul has more then enough to say about all that type of attitude if one wanted to read it for themselves out of the Bible.
I personally witnessed the win against Lambuth University in Jackson, Tennessee. Ended a 10 year drought against them and reclaiming the “W” for Union’s scorebook was most exciting. Hearing Coach Tommy Reid reflect about all those that played the game and sought after the dream was also humbling and demonstrated the type of leadership the young men on this team witness in their Head Coach. The Biblical truth I see in this example is that the Bible says for us to lay a foundation that others can build upon, and that has been done and today we witness all the hard work of those that came before us. I remember the winless season, and I remember the all so “almost” games that seemed to slip through our fingers and “if only” would have worked, it would have been different. While the wins then would have been so great, I will confess that I am finding the present moments to be just as refreshing in my memory moment as I think about the success of today. Remembering players and coaches who gave their all toward the vision reminds me to continue laying the proper foundation because we never know when the blessings are going to fall, but we can rest assured that when they do, it is so sweet. And, if the blessings do not fall, we will have no regrets, because we will have left all our efforts to achieve on the field where the game was played. We will reflect and have no regret because we did not cheat the man in the glass, and out determination to achieve is only heightened by our struggles and battles to win.

And your choice is?

Listening to a minister during a recent church service he made a statement that I found to be very interesting and I thought it to be appropriate for some reflection about his statement in other ways of consideration. His statement was: “I’d rather be close to someone that is just what they are than a phony.” His context was about just hanging out. People that we hold friendship with, those types of individuals others know we are close to because of the times they see you with them in various settings. It was a statement that from observation among those also listening that they agreed. They too seemed to like real people. We all know what a phony is. Someone that is not the person all their efforts would lead you to believe they are. A phony could be described as someone that says one thing or tells others this or that in terms of information or instruction, to only be someone who does the complete opposite of what they would recommend others do.
Professing Christians are unique because of the one in whom they profession their connection and relationship with. It could be said that John Deere lovers wear things all about John Deere, the take pride in the colors and believe that the product is the best machine produced. The same is said for Harley lovers. Sure we don’t want to buy a Honda, we love the sound of that rumble, the shake of that engine that moves the bike, the feel behind those handle bars and the knowledge of what it took to make that purchase. For Christians, the characteristics of Jesus should be just as evident as those that love John Deere, Harley’s or drink only R.C., Coke , or Mt. Dew., but it so often isn’t. Actually it is easy to use these illustrations and say that the priorities of “those folks” are not correct, yet our lives as Christians reflect a much less allegiance so often in our witness or treatment of others or concern for their well being.
So who had you rather hang with, someone that believes what they say or that phony that the minister I have quoted pointed out as a dislike? Questions that come to mind are why are Christian’s not happy people, folks that others want to be around, or as a witness, the type of person that lost folks or even hurting folks would turn to for a listening ear, a suggestive word or help? To many Christians sing about marching forward, but never move. Christians like to sing about that joy, joy, joy down in their heart, but they don’t reflect an attractive spirit to those hurting around them. Struggling thoughts one must deal with in considering why our churches are not growing in big numbers. You would think that as the world’s population experiences more questions about life, more issues about choices, and battle hills to climb that Christians would be the greatest direction signs for neighbors, school friends and co-workers. We don’t wear our colors very well in today’s environment. We are suppose to be people who love neighbors but we don’t open or doors and homes to them. Many Christians only have friends that are from church, we are normally not about meeting new people, listening to wear those we meet have been or the experiences they have had from life. Jesus was all about being us being His eyes, ears, and hands, yet we find greater security in remaining within our strong holds, talking a good talk about what we believe Jesus can do for others, but we refuse to begin friendships because of obvious differences of opinion, thoughts or in most cases, just our own perceived differences. Jesus was certainly not a person to let a perception stop him from being someone’s friend, or hanging out with them!
Not sure where your loyalty lies in the realm of spirituality, friendship, family, or reaching out to others, but we have a great example in Jesus Christ if we would only follow Him, His leadership and the example He set before us. The greatest thing that is so attractive to me personally about Jesus Christ is that His invitation to me, you and all of us is that we “come just as we are”. Not sure why we want to add other conditions for those around us when He didn’t, but I have found a friend in Jesus, and I want to give my efforts to share that with my neighbors and those I meet too, what about you?

Until then

Knoxville Church Shooting - Part III

The past two columns I have written about the tragic church shooting that occurred in Knoxville Tennessee. Those columns have addressed issues about Christianity and where we are as followers of Christ, the condition the average church finds herself in, and what we are doing to make a difference in our communities through involvement in reaching out to others and advancing the cause of Christ through witness and genuine care for others because of our relationship with Jesus Christ.
Sad is the day that Christians are so caught up in ourselves that we have taken a sideline position in just watching the world pass us by as we just observe the passing and provide negative comments about all that’s happening as we see it. Sad is the condition when we have confused all the trappings of life and have discovered our own Christianity to be a “ball and chain” instead of a liberating freedom through the forgiveness of sin and a happiness that we discover and the peace that is found in Him.
Conservative Christianity today is like a medal or some type of honor one is crowned with because of a position or belief. Take for instance worship. Perceived conservatives believe worship is about singing hymns, taking up the offering using only church approved ushers or in high church the deacons. Conservative worship is about a choir singing, maybe a soloist singing with the piano, but certainly not a sound track, and perceived conservative worship involves folks shaking the preachers hand when making decisions so things can be official, I guess. However, this is not worship at all. Worship is not about hymns, it’s not about a style of preaching, worship is not about dress or appearance, worship is not at all about these types of things, worship is ALL about Jesus Christ! I am certain that we all know folks that don’t look like us, their clothing is different, and so they cannot possibly know Jesus Christ, right conservative Christian? If we know someone who have been in jail all conservative Christians know that this person is in trouble and their soul is greatly disturbed, right? If you are saying no to this statement then ask yourself when was the last time you know your fellowship of believers attempted to made a difference in this type of situation. I guess it is easy for a traditional church to forget about the scriptures where Jesus said when you visited me in prison, clothed me, feed me, you were doing it unto me, huh?
The fact that I am writing about a traditional church tells you all about the division that has taken place in the body of Christ. Man has made and applied the terms traditional to Jesus, because Jesus certainly did not. We tag the church in Knoxville, the Unitarian Universalist Church, as progressive and we call them out of the main stream, but why? Conservatives will express the opinion that it begins in their name, just look at it. Conservatives would expect something bad to happen at a church like that right? I guess all the traditional conservatives have forgotten that the Apostle Paul wrote we are suppose to “press toward the prize” and if pressing, pushing, going toward the cause of Christ is not progressive, then I don’t know what is, and this is my point. So many Christians believe being progressive is wrong, but I don’t think so. I want to be progressing in my Christian walk and I want to be changing too. I want to grow, I want to learn, I want to follow Jesus, and I will. I do want to swear allegiance to a pastor, minister or denomination. I believe when God’s word says “He so loved the World”, that He does, and my call as a Christian is to help EVERYONE know this, not just the select few or those exactly like me.
God’s word is very clear. He came once as a baby born in Bethlehem, and He is coming again as the King of Kings, and I don’t want to miss watching for His coming, and I don’t want to sit around and just wait for His return either. The call is to go, but I might assume that some churches don’t have the Great Commission in their Bibles anymore.

Until then

Knoxville, Tn - Call to Christian Arms..that's service, not guns!

Having raised the issue of why churches are not more progressive what answers or questions have you pondered? Christians do not have to be folks that run with both arms going in two directions and are feet going in other directions to be busy or affective in reaching folks for Christ. Actually, we need to be much more focused then that four minded unstable condition. The Bible encourages Christians to be focused and purposed in our actions, all the while consider His call on our lives and His will in view of our talents and skills.
Many of our churches today have become resting points in the midst of busy weeks, instead of planning and filling stations that direct us and empower individuals to make a difference where God has planted us. I am certain that honest folks sitting in the pews will agree with that statement while others will be offended and upset that anyone would even challenge their mission, ministries or activities. I guess I should point out that if that be your position you have already missed the point all together. The call to Christians to assemble is not at all about what we would want to do, but rather what Christ would have us to do. The call to our mission is about leading people to Jesus, and if we are honest as Christians and as a church, we are missing the mark daily in reaching lost people groups here within our own communities. Consider the fact that many churches do not even have children or youth ministries. Consider the mark we are missing. It’s not my words, but God’s Word that says we are suppose to train up a child in the admonition of the Lord, so when they grow old they will not stray. Who do we consider this responsibility to fall upon if not the church? Sure, it would be nice if parents were involved in their children’s lives, but can we wait around for someone else to get the message and not act now? Most adults do a great job of pointing out all the issues and problems teenagers are involved in or create, but what commitment have we made to provide a chance or opportunity for them to not just see, but learn of another way?
Our ministries are so filled with just busy time stuff, but why not focus on one family or two in a church that are dealing with the issue of drugs and begin the attempt to mentor, be a listening ear, provide a helping hand to these types of struggles and battles that we know exist within our neighbors? Honestly, I cannot think of a greater involvement for the church then to provide assistance and help in this area. I don’t know of a church that has not been affected by this issue, I only know churches that have taken no actions to address these concerns. It is hard to believe with all the public information about this problem why are churches still are not sponsoring meetings such as AA or some type of drug support system for those who desire to be free of such vices. After all, these vices would be those of the devil and why we would not want to set people free through the introduction of Jesus, His acceptance of them as they are, and introduction of His plan for their lives is really beyond my mind of thinking as a Christian. I wonder what the reaction would be if I placed a call to the drug court in our county and just asked, what churches provide any assistance to those involved in this program through the courts? Certainly there are some church members that are involved and even some churches that participate, but how effective would the program be if a united front for the cause of Christ was present?
Again, I am certain that some would believe this type of involvement would be to progressive and outside of the calling of Christ, but I cannot help but think of who it was He did reach out to in view of who most of us as Christians reach out to. His actions should be so challenging to us, why are we not doing more? What has happened inside our church walls that have caused us to keep most of the doors locked almost all of the time, and our community presence delegated to a sign on the side of the road and maybe a local cable advertisement that promotes the times we conduct our local services and meetings? The church shooting in Knoxville, Tennessee should be a wake up call. Review of the local newspaper of folks arrested and the citations written and the crimes charged with should be a wake up call. The family members and friends that we claim to love and care about should be a wake up call and a call to action, but maybe not.
It could be that our sense of pride would be destroyed if we helped those not like us. It could be our character might be called into question if we were seen offering support or being a friend to someone that we considered to be “in sin”.
Not sure what the reasons are we have not filed into a mighty marching army of Christians but we all know that hasn’t happened yet.

Until then

Knoxville, TN - Church shooting over progressive agenda

The recent church shooting that occurred on a Sunday morning in Knoxville, Tennessee should cause all who bear and confess the name of Jesus Christ to immediate alarm and duty. It is hard to imagine, but it happened. While children were performing before church members, attendees, and visitors, in walks a confessing Christian who opens gunfire upon them, because he was not pleased with the churches recent progressive steps and what he considered to be a liberal agenda.
Now I’m confident that there are enough opinions about this event to fill the newspapers of Southern Kentucky and East Tennessee for the remaining days of this year. There are elements of this event and this mans actions that should cause Christians everywhere to desire to step up and make a difference, if we believe Jesus Christ intended on us doing such. There should be no doubt, this column is written to Christians, not church leaders, although church leaders should be Christians. This is written to all of us who sit in a pew, claim membership on a church roll, act or lead folks to believe we are Christians. I am bothered, disturbed, and often wonder what our churches are doing for the cause of Christ. Sure we have services on Sunday, offer some activities during the week such as a Bible study, prayer meeting, or maybe even a regular preaching-singing service, and these are all good and have their place, but what are we doing beyond this?
In Knoxville, TN., this upset former church member walked into the church took aim upon those there, hurt, killed and has impacted even those not attending that service or members of that congregation. If this is what a conservative is, I know I don’t want to be called one. Actually when Jesus Christ came into my heart he liberated me, by removing my sins from me, He set me free. If this is a conservative, I am not one. I am not tied to my sins anymore since Jesus paid the price for my personal sins on the cross! I am free, the scripture say not only am I free, but He has given me an abundant life because of that freedom and removal of that debt, which I owed, because of His actions, not mine. All any one needs to give me credit for is having enough understanding to know that Jesus Christ loved me so, that He gave His only Son, to take my place.
This event in Knoxville happened for many reasons. It happened because there was not a clear teaching about who and what Jesus was about. Some will now say Amen, thanks, but hold on. It’s not because of the churches teaching and actions of welcoming all people, this happened because this individual missed what the love of God and His purpose in sending His Son to us is about. Jesus Christ is not about condemnation, but about getting out of mud and on a solid rock. Jesus Christ is not about folks finding no answers or solutions, after all He came to seek and save that which was lost. I would write one of the issues happening in our churches is that we are not accepting of people who don’t act like us, talk like us, live like us, or we perceive are simply no one of us. If you believe this is Christ like actions in this line of thinking, think again, because Jesus ran to those that were down and out. Jesus looked up into trees for those that were hurting, he provided us story after story in His word about restoring those that had gone from home and discovered themselves in pits with hogs. Many of our churches today continue to miss what the church is suppose to be about. It is suppose to be a hospital for the sick. The church should be a shelter from the storms of life, and a resting haven for the weary souls traveling. The truth is most churches are clubs who have events for themselves, dinners for themselves, and cater to one another’s needs repeatedly, without ever offering assistance to those on the outside of her doors.
Why is it we not involved in our communities? Why is it we think social issues are the governments problems? Why do we always blame the problems on someone else and attempt to think up some organization we could create to address such needs? The best organization for making a difference already exist, it’s the church. The church is suppose to be filled with people that remember when judging others that they too could be just as guilty and or find themselves in such a position if caught unaware by the devil and his tactics. What about a church that remembers LOVE is the greatest thing? The scripture says love is greater then hope and faith, in case you have not read that in awhile. I don’t have all the answers, but I do know the example to follow!

Self Evaluations - Friends - Leadership

It could be said that one of the most difficult things in the entire world to do could very well be when we evaluate oneself. For those who have worked in Fortune 500 companies, you clearly understand evaluations, goal reviews, goal setting and team talks, or what some might call peer reviews. Individuals who have been in smaller companies may have attended a conference or big team meeting where you heard from executives or what some might call the big shots. Others may have participated in some strategy planning or brain storming sessions, particularly if you have been involved in sales or customer service related tasks or positions. Of course some might just call those positions jobs and skip the professional titles all together.
Evaluation is difficult for us as individuals because we all would like to think we are correct. Our thoughts are the best thoughts anyone could have, and the best ideas we have shared already. Of course some might just think people don’t listen because they are jealous of them and their achieved success. Of course those same “some” would think everyone wants to be where they are, doing what they do, and will at all cost bring them down if given the opportunity. For the sake of pointing out I clearly understand life, I will admit that those “some” do exist. We should learn to master the art of self evaluation anyway, as it will help us in dealing with such individuals when they do show their pretty little faces and begin their schemes.
One of the keys to a good self evaluation is to consider the various points of views or observations points of others. The success of this beginning key is to weigh the value of the view and not those that are stating an opinion. I have learned in life that you can learn from everyone. We can learn what to do as well as those things one should not do. Being open minded to possibilities is always a good thing, yet so many Christians seem to be very closed minded to possibilities, even though they may sing the song, “All things are possible with God.” The one difficult aspect of this possible thinking is that some might so scare others in their way of thinking that normally they get themselves confused with the work of the Holy Spirit and consider themselves His direct representative. Personally, I have learned to get out of the way of the Holy Spirit, He can do His work best without my interference. I need convict no one of sin, a bad position, or way of thinking. Best task for me would be to pursue His call and work in my life, and find new and creative ways to accomplish His plan. Not an easy task, but an honorable pursuit nevertheless.
The other key I will mention is dealing with the let downs in our self evaluations. I have yet to meet someone who enjoys them. Competitive driven individuals easily get caught up in the drama of “I missed it, how could I have done that, what was I thinking.” The easy going folks assume the position of this is normal. “People run over me all the time, I was expecting that.” And knuckle heads consider they were right all along and they are just living to be able to say, “I told you so.”
Admitting mistakes or saying I was wrong is not the normal teaching one receives in school or from our families, but it should be. Learning how to respect others and not necessarily accept others is also a good trait but one that we don’t teach because some would think this would be a sign of weakness, instead of viewing it as a real gift in opening dialog, understanding of others, and one of the keys to establishment of real friendship and relationship. Some would never do this, of course. Reason number one would be their own insecurities and lack of vision, goals and pursuits. It is always easier to stay where you are and watch others then to step out and lead as the front man where all the direct hits take place. Yes, who wants to be on the frontline of evaluation, improvement, and growth? Most say it, but will never step up to do it.
Politics, rejection, would be two big reasons why we refuse to do a self evaluation. We like serving self much better then others, even while some will always say they are taking such steps for others. Leaders need real friends. Real friends are not easy to find and leadership is seldom recognized when it is witnessed because we are so unfamiliar with its signs and characteristic’s.
If you find yourself in the valley or even on the mountain top all alone, consider the option that some will never teach for those lonely days, moments, or situations. However, there is a friend that sticks by closer then a brother—His name is Jesus.

Until then

Read it for yourself....Best Answer!

What is one to do when you know folks are misquoting the Holy Bible? For the record let me explain a misquote as a missed understanding of truth, and not necessary a literal quoting of a scripture from a particular text like from the King James Version, the American Standard, or the New International Version. A misquote would also be a half quote and not just a bad explanation of scripture.
A good challenge would be to ask someone whom with you work, maybe a family member, a friend who claims to be a Christian, what their favorite scripture is, and then ask a follow up, how many scriptures do you have memorized? These two questions will place most people in a bad spirit because most don’t have a favorite, yet they will attempt to tell you what their favorite verse sounds like, and this is always followed up with why they don’t memorize scripture. Such as a bad memory for starters, followed by an additional explanation about how they have never been good at memorizing. The next test would be to turn on the radio and listen to them sing all the words to all the songs that I can’t even make out what in the world they are saying and singing. But that’s for another column on another day. So what about those misquotes, or clear miss applications of scripture, what is one to do when we hear folks quoting something we know is wrong?
One that I hear all the time or one that seems to be popular to misquote is that we are not suppose to judge. The reference is from Matthew 7:1-2. Always when you hear that scripture, just remember they are only quoting the scripture that meets their personal position. The real application and understanding comes from verse two as the scriptures teach that the standards we judge other by or from, are or shall be the same standards we are judged by, not that we should not judge, but rather that we should be cautious making judgments. After all, there are additional scriptures that would remind each of us that we are all capable of falling were we plan not to fall, and committing that which one might say they would never do.
Another often misquoted come from Romans 8:28. The half of the scripture quoted by Christians and non-Christians is that God works all things out to the good. Folks just love to say that “everything works out”, but that’s not true. And if it all does work out, then I would ask to whom get the benefit of this problem solving? The key to that half truth is that God does work things out, but ONLY to those that are in the center of His will, and called according to His purpose. That full understanding makes everything working out a bit more complicated doesn’t it?
So what is a person to do when he hear folks making the wrong application. In some situations, you might not want to stand up and correct the error publically; it might best be accomplished by gently and with love asking for a clarification of what they said to make sure you understand their position. Might be one needs to study for themselves to allow some learning and growing time to better understanding the others point of view or statement about a particular scripture. I have a great friend that often asks people if they have ever taken the journey? His question is about if they have ever read the Bible from Genesis to Revelation. A discovery in life is that most people have never read the Bible from beginning to end. They are fully comfortable though quoting what they like, or what they have heard most often and have applied that to memory or recollection. There is a great discover in reading the Bible for oneself. I personally am very confident that the Holy Spirit doesn’t need my assistance to explain His word, or to give explanation to His teaching. The Holy Spirit is quite capable and fully dependable to give direction and guidance to anyone that is willing to pick up the book and read for themselves, asking God to make Himself known to them through His word.
The best answers for life and life’s questions are found in the Bible. I am someone that believes in trusted tried and true sources, but even with those great friends, teachers, leaders and mentors, I always like to look at something for myself and see what the spirit inside of me is saying when I read those same words from the Book. Not sure what you have said or what you stand around normally listening to, but I can recommend the Bible itself as your best teaching tool.

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Life Quotes: Hill; Elliott; Fields; Davis; Harmon; West; Hufstedler; Bingham; Smith; Southworth; Ballard; Bryant;

Listening to friends can be a good thing or a bad thing. Now if you have trusted friends that have proven themselves over the years, you have nothing to worry about. Keep asking your questions and keep taking their advice. However, if you’re longest friendship is 6 months or at best a year, then I would suggest you temper all advice from those friends with degrees of great caution and reserve. Real advice comes from a trusted source that has passed the test of time by providing insight and wisdom that is categorized as “what you need to hear” and not what you “want to hear.” Finding these types of resources are never easy and they only develop over long hauls of continual friendship and relationship.
I recently ran across one of my journals of notes where I have written down quotes and statements by friends over the years. Some are new and some are old, nevertheless, I still find them valuable and wanted to share them. These are the random selections of quotes, statements and notes from my friends as trusted sources:
“To save money do three things in construction. 1) Come in under budget on your projects at completion 2) Make sure you complete your projects on time 3) Price them right to start with” – Steven Hill
“Two biggest walls in my life. The one between me and everyone, and the one between me and God”-Scott Bryant
“Sometimes we hold on to something that is good to only lose something that was better”-Greg Bullard, Pastor
“If mules get to go to Heaven, I’m going to ask mine to forgive me-old plugs!”-Rev. William Boyd Bingham Jr. , my great uncle.
“It is never easy, but I will not lie”-Azaiah Southworth
“Deep breath please, answering “why” will probably offer no solace at this time. Maybe a time for redirection and focus is at hand. Also, time to grieve dreams and ideas and people that may have passed on from your life whether your choice or not. They have still passed and need to be grieved. Some people would say, “I don’t want to waste any energy on them.” The energy is not being spent, it is being invested o n yourself! Here’s to a new life and some fond memories, bottoms up!”-David Holt
“I am always glad to listen and hang out”-Trevor Barton, Hawk Creek Baptist Church
“You’re eager; be patient, don’t take the first thing that comes along, sometimes the best thing is at the end”-Shirley Hufstedler, high school civics teacher.
“Watch out for non-moving trains”-Patrick Harmon
“We would still be walking, thank God for the Rangers”-Jordan Davis
“When you swing up the barn door, birds sing and rats run”-Matthew West
“Justification is Jesus telling the guilty they are not guilty”-Steven Smith, FBC-Barbourville
“It might be a mess, but it sure is a big beautiful mess to God, because he knows exactly where we need to be”-Judson Fields
“Live, Love Burn, Die”-Seth Eric Elliott
Advice is something we all seek in life. Steven Smith’s words came from a testimony he was sharing in church during a revival meeting. I found it interesting to here him use the words justification, the guilty and not guilty, especially with his professional background. It was a much more powerful statement about Jesus Christ because he knew what he was talking about and the application was great.
If you are interested in quotes, I would recommend the Book of Proverbs as a great place to being to find your collection of thoughts. It is amazing once one has memorized God’s words, how we use those thoughts and ideas as our own in conversations and advice we give to others. It’s all a good thing, thanks to The Word.

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Wisdom for my niece, Brittany Elizabeth Baker

Rite of Passage sounds like a good book and maybe even a movie? Actually, I know there is a book on the subject matter for certain, and there must be a movie as well along that thought line. A Rite of Passage is that opportunity to take another step forward in a continual progression of steps that leads you to your journey’s end. You might consider the journey as looking for the end of a Rainbow to discover that pot of gold that we’ve heard in legend over the years.
Rites of Passage could begin almost anywhere, it just depends on your family, individual traditions, and personal milepost created in ones life. Hitting your teen years is a Rite of Passage more then likely the first rite we cannot wait to arrive. Just to hear you’re a teenager makes you feel good, until someone reminds you that “you’re only a teenager”, right? Then you have the passage into legal operation of a motorized apparatus. For some it is an automobile and for others it is a motorcycle, nevertheless, the passage is significant. I wrote legal operation because most everyone in my generation drove before we had the right to legal do so. It could be a short drive to the store, your grandparent’s home, over a dirt road or just around the block, but most I know did that for sure back in the day, it was I guess a little extra special rite of passage granted under best circumstances present.
Other highlighted moments of passage that most would agree with include graduating from high school, receiving your certificate recognizing this mile stone of 12 years of education. The real privilege that comes along with this moment is that you have two choices, continue the educational process toward additional academic studies, career training or advanced specialized institutional instructions in a specific field of interest such as service in one of our country’s branches of the military as an option, that’s choice one or you have choice two which is simply go to work, get a job. That last option, truthfully, is one you will be focusing on for your remaining days here on earth, like it or not.
I believe these are the basic Rites of Passage that each of us has as opportunity, and these develop before us as we grow. There are many privileges that fill ones life and I believe there is a distinction between a Rite of Passage and an advancing opportunity. Some folks may consider that these rites of passage are granted guarantees that “somehow or another we are due”, but I would not consider that to be true at all. Attendance in school is not advancement in school; it is only a part of the requirement to achievement. Age doesn’t mean accepted status of opinion or recommendations, it is, or should be however, an indicator of experience in life and valuable wisdom worthy of consideration. We all know folks that have wasted that cherished gift of time and have lost a level of value because of their choices; such is life and her experiences that we must deal with.
The opportunities of life, once achievements of the basic Rites of Passage have been mastered are endless, and the world is a vast sea with adventure on every breaking wave of life. These seas provide beautiful views and the most gentle of breezes to be enjoyed, yet, there is no more a disturbing moment as fearful as a stormy night at seas as well. One must learn to weather the storms and enjoy the sunshine with caution in each. Standing in the rain is ok, but move in if lightening is around. Enjoy the sun and her rays but remember to put on sun block if you are staying out very long. Interesting isn’t it, just how difficult life and all her choices, opportunities, and our responsibilities are.
This weekend my niece Brittany Elizabeth Baker is embarking on an adventure and one of those responsibility opportunities in life. It is no Rite of Passage, but it is a truly unique decision, the choice to unite in marriage. Selection of a mate, that’s only one part, working out the details of a wedding, time consuming yes, and earth shaking to you at the moment, yes, but this is all just one additional opportunity presently discovered. The additional moments will come, some planned, others unexpected. Greet life honestly, and seek wisdom and counsel from proven sources will aid you in your journey. When I was growing up there was this song often sang at weddings entitled, “We’ve Only Just Begun”, and you have. My prayers – Scott and Brittany.

Until then

4th of July - Naming Names to Thank!

Each generation is always touched by certain specific events that give a lasting hand print upon their lives. Being one of those, “baby-boomers”, there are several events that have impacted my life, placed a mark of distinction, or helped to mold my thoughts. Being a teen and a part of the Bi-Centennial Celebration of our Country in 1976 was one of those “events, hand, distinction” that I recall and cherish. This weekend we celebrate our Nations liberty of freedom and distinction among all other nations of the world on this 4th of July.
When I think about America my reflections cover the span of my life time and the appreciation I have for our Country. It could be that I have an extra special place for America because I have traveled overseas and have experienced first hand the difference between the U.S.A. and other countries? Whatever the cause of my devotion to my Country, I am thankful for my love for her and for the willingness of others to pick up arms and defend our way of life here at home and our interest throughout the world.
On his 4th of July Weekend I am saluting my personal friends who are in service to our Nation currently. Jacob Piper; Col. Lance Patterson; Erik Brooks; Jeremy Baker; Lt. Joe Contiguglia; brothers, Nick & Daniel Ruggieri; Richard Webb; Rusty Goings; and Caleb Jones; Friends who have served are: Jonathan Bunkrick; brothers, Greg & David Speicher; Jeff “Eagle-Crow” Settles; Greg Foley; Dwain Neely; Ryan Loudermilk; Walt Meachum; Dwight Lewis; Marvin Chess; Keith Barnett; and Danny Catron; My Purple Heart Hero is Joshua A Brock.
When on begins the process of thinking about our fore fathers and their thoughts about freedom and what that should look like, it is amazing that today their vision continues to lives. I would not assume that all the freedoms shared or expressed were what they were thinking, nor would I assume that some of the topics of life that have been ruled unconstitutional or unlawful would be their thought line either, but we do enjoy a real freedom that allows us to agree, disagree and come together.
Depending upon where you live it maybe that you will walk out your door and watch fireworks taking to the air, or it maybe that you will to a town or community center to enjoy the 4th of July. Last year I spend the fourth of July at one of the most unique settings for a 4th of July, and I would go so far as to say it’s discovery so close to home was a reminder that the best things in life can be found right where we live. Last year I took to Route 66 and drove to the Red Bird Community to enjoy their wholesome-family-community celebration that I really enjoyed. I saw a few friends that I had known over the years and I was reminded of how special Red Bird is and what a unique gem we have here in the mountains. For those living in Bell County and Clay County I’m just going to assume that because they live right there, they may not consider it to be so unique, but what a special place. Consider all the lives touched through the ministry of the Red Bird Conference. Growing up I had several friendships through 4-H and sports. Over the years Red Bird has continued to make a difference and for those living in Knox County, what would Knox County be without the ministry of the Lend-A-Hand Center and Peggy Kemner to so many residence.
This weekend it maybe that you will just sit on the porch and enjoy the breeze or the view. You may discover some great television series you have seen in years and watch that trilogy, but no matter what direction you head I would ask that you take time to say thanks to those you know who have served in our Armed Forces, and for those you know who are currently serving, why not call one of their family members to say thanks to them for the sacrifice they and their families are making for their loved ones to extend our protections and freedoms.
We have much to be thankful for and the creator of the universe deserves our prayers and praise. Those that are advancing the Kingdom also deserve our thanks, especially those peace makers who continue to make a difference, some here at home in service and support missions and those that are working the frontlines and behind the lines deserve a hearty prayer and thanks.

Until then

Great Uncle McCoy Carnes & Great Aunt Edna Messer Remembered

My parents taught me the value of family and respect for my heritage. It was after all their motivating factor to relocate from Michigan to Kentucky. They had a dream that their children would grow up, knowing their family members and appreciating the history from which our family derived.
Knowing my great-grandparents has always been a cherished gift I received from living in Kentucky. My mother’s father, Alonzo Carnes, provided me the connection of my Great Grandfather George Martin Carnes, Sr. , Pap was a character to say the least. Always living on the curve, raising his family from off the land he farmed, sure, life wasn’t easy, but my Great Aunts and Uncles did very well for themselves from this heritage and today their families have become individuals who have made great impacts throughout our communities. I enjoy the pleasure of being a Pap, named after him, to a little guy named Seth Joshua and a precious little baby girl, Julia Anna Baker. I don’t always wear the biv-overalls like Pap did, and I don’t roll my own cigarettes from Prince Albert in the can, but I pray to leave them the value of family, a heritage rich in tradition, and genuine love to be carried on to the next generation.
This side of my family has always been special because of the absence of my grandfather in my life. My great-aunts and uncles filled his shoes in such a way that I was actually a teenager before I realized his absence. Their love and the investment of their time into my life will forever remain a part of the very being that I am.
Recently our family experienced the loss of my Great Uncle McCoy “Sam” Carnes and my Great Aunt Edna Messer. The family life line continues in my Aunt Evelyn Warren and my two remaining Uncles, George Carnes Jr., and Cloyd Carnes. These elderly giants of life and history helped fill my missing answers about life, of which I will always be grateful for their willingness to invest in me and my understanding.
When I learned of their individual passings, immediately the first thoughts that came to my mind were the last two conversations I had with each of them. Conversations about family and what they perceived and believed with respect to life as it was, and is today. I wanted no speculation about their thoughts, I needed to hear from them and they each shared with me. Actually I had the same conversation with each of my great aunts and uncles and I was so overwhelmed by their candor and what I perceived to be heart felt genuine thoughts. It is never easy to approach family to talk about history and to understand why folks did what they did, but I am so grateful that they knew my heart and respected my life enough to share from their unique position of a brother and a sister regarding my grandfather, my mother, and Aunt Imogene. I have always had the highest regards for them because they remained connected even when others disappeared. My desire for conversation about life and how I should live my life was filled with their stories about times they were done wrong by others, childhood experiences with Big Mom and Pap, stories of how they decided to raise their families and how you just got to let some people do what they are going to do. Valuable information that they shared with me, knowledge I learned from them and wisdom that I’ve shared already with others in my life.
Meeting Uncle McCoy at the store and sitting there, just a rocks through from the old home place, was most precious. Drinking a soda on him and listening to him share with me about my mother made me see clearly why she always loved him so. Driving to Aunt Edna’s which always seemed so far away, was just a short ride to the porch that look way down from the road as a child. Hearing her talk about mistakes witnessed in life, and about the difficulties each has been through in their lives was a reminded that we are all human, we’ve all made decisions we wish we could take back, but yet, we find ourselves living life the best we know or can, under the circumstances that surround us.
My life is no secret. I believe the road to the future is paved by those who have gone before us. We have options to take or choices to follow, or we can attempt to make a new road using the wisdom of the past for our own decisions and life’s journey.
Within my total Great’s family on all sides, I have remaining Aunt Evelyn, Aunt Doxie, Uncle Junior, Uncle Cloyd, Aunt Mary and Aunt Mae. The wisdom of life is never to late to be learned, and as a great-nephew I am just thankful that on all sides, they have been willing to share with me.

Until then

Reflection on Father's Day - from church

During church services on Father’s Day the hymn which set my mind to thinking was that of “Faith of our Fathers”. I have been an individual that has always listened to words and that training and focus has been amplified over the past several years in my life. The scriptural foundation for this hymn comes from Hebrews 11:6. The Bible says, without faith it is impossible to please him. The hymn is one of most challenging words and thought actions. An individual singing this hymn makes several statements of personal faith, and these are all based upon the witness and example we have seen from our Father. 1) That we will win all nations for the cause of Christ. 2) Dungeon, fire nor sword will cause us to stop living for Him. 3) And that we will live our lives with kindly words and a virtuous life. 4) That we will love both friend and foe in all our strife.
This hymn is a great example of real preaching without an actual sermon to listen to. Most folks would say they like toe stomping preaching, well, here’s hymn stomping without a doubt. The challenges are so strong and cause us to have such a inter reflection that considering such could really change us as Christians. “Faith of our Fathers” presents a real sense of accountability for those we are watching, and for those that are looking at us as we live our lives. Actually it is sobering to consider the spiritual heritage that our children will have will be what they have learned from us. Makes one immediately want to say, “oh me”, right?
Personal evaluation in life is always difficult, especially if we are true to ourselves, and trust our own evaluation. I have often given the counsel to individuals that if you are going to lie, lie to others, but don’t lie to yourself. The reason for this counsel is because once you lie to yourself you have no one you can trust. Of course the best counsel is to not lie to anyone, yourself nor others. When it comes to our Christian walk of faith where are you in the honesty factor of your relationship? Are you living your life in such a way that your positive life wins others to Christ? When you are up against the battle of battle are you fighting against the dungeon, fire and sword?
Honesty, I would think, would cause each of us to see our failures in our walks and lives of faith for Him. I believe personal reflection is not about doing so to put a lid or close the casket on our lives or actions, but rather a personal tool for good. None of us would like to admit we have failed. None of us would like to admit we are not the best example to watch. None of us wants to be used as the poster child for ‘don’t live your life this way’. Yet, we are all those things too. In my personal life of faith one of the things I have learned to embrace and understand about Jesus Christ is that He does not want to condemn us, but when His word says that He came to seek and to save that which is lost, it means just that. All of us included. I have learned to embrace the fact of faith that our lives is about pressing toward the prize, it is about our confession that we are not able to go on, and that we can only go forward because we can only do all things through Him.
Not sure what you did on Father’s Day. It might have been you had a cookout, went to the lake, attended church, had a family dinner at home, or it was just another normal Sunday, whatever that might be for you. Could have been you received a gift from your child, or children. Maybe you received a phone call and from the other line you heard an “I love you” and “Happy Father’s Day”. For me, I enjoyed church, the music was especially challenging to my ears and my way of thinking has been challenged, how about yours?

Until then

Sarah McLachlan, Dale Wimbrow, & Justice Cain

Quotes are great and I love them. I love the quotes that make immediate sense and those that you need to think about to make sure you understand what is being said. Quotes with hidden meanings can be the perfect encouragement for the day. May I suggest Charles Dickerson, Walt Whitman, Robert Frost, as just good fun classics, if you are up to some reading. To seek and discover today’s lines you might want to tune in to a station that is playing top music hits, listen to the radio and hear the excitement or the pain.
Sarah McLachlan writes in her song, Arms of an Angel, “spend all your time waiting for that second chance, for the break that will make it ok. There’s always some reason to feel not good enough and it’s hard at the end of the day.” These words are powerful she has pinned as a self expressionist. “You are pulled from the wreckage of your silent reverie, you’re in the arms of an Angel, may you find some comfort here”.
Dale Wimbrow wrote the poem, The Guy in the Glass. This may very well be my all time favorite poem and one that I have quoted since it was introduction into my life. “When you get what you want in your struggle for pelf, and the world makes you Kind for a day, then go to the mirror and look at yourself, and see what that guy has to say. You can fool the whole world down the pathway of years, and get pats on the back as you pass, but your final reward will be heartaches and tears, if you’ve cheated the guy in the glass.” What a challenge for anyone up to a good self inspection. Check out Dale Wimbrow and his work, A Sardine and a Cracker for more moments if you want a laugh and a smile at the same time.
I am thankful for the friends I have in life. I am thankful for their personal impact, thoughts they have shared, and I’ve enjoyed the time it takes to get to know folks. Allowing our friends to be themselves is just as difficult as being authentic in worship. Listening to people is something that is only successfully accomplished because you really care and want to listen and be helpful. The typical nose in your business- is worse case scenario, and leads to the development of few friends but lots of talk and gossip, if that be your goal.
Justice Cain wrote: “I am more spiritual than religious, religion requires faith, faith equals 'blind trust'. Life has taught me to keep my eyes, mind and heart open and trust is too easily and often broken. Hope is all I have, certainty is uncertain, promises may not be kept, trust may not be earned, words may not be true, love may not be returned, belief and great expectations cannot be afforded. But I have Hope....and dreams.”
If you are writing your quote or situation for today what words are you going to strike upon the canvas of life or paper as you pin your thoughts? The quest for self is never easy. The hard lesson may very well be that we find ourselves in giving ourselves away to another. Many of the followers of Jesus have so distorted His teaching that many think there is no answer in His teachings today. Finding life through Him is about Him providing life to us, by the giving of himself.
Who are you listening to for the answers in life? What are you reading for understanding? Where are you looking for the solutions you seek? Justice wrote, “but I have a hope….and dreams.” Me too, join the journey if you will.

Until then